Jealousy: Where does it come from and what can we do?

Jealousy - the topic that occurs in almost every relationship. It is one of those emotions that can be so strong that they can affect our thoughts, actions and even our relationships. Where does jealousy come from, and how can we deal with it?

Where does the feeling of jealousy come from?

Well, first of all, jealousy is quite a complex emotion. It can arise for various reasons, such as insecurity or fear of losing a partner. Sometimes it also comes from a past full of betrayal and deception. Whatever the reason for jealousy is, the feeling can quickly become a problem, if it becomes uncontrollable and affects the relationship or one's own life.

When does jealousy become pathological?

Although jealousy is a normal human emotion and occurs in almost every relationship, it becomes pathological when it affects the daily life of the person concerned and leads to excessive mistrust and controlling behavior. Pathological jealousy can lead to social isolation, relationship problems and mental illnesses such as anxiety or depression. When a person is constantly plagued by jealousy and their thoughts and actions are determined by this feeling, it is essential to seek professional help. Therapy can help understand the causes and triggers of jealousy and find ways to develop healthier behavior patterns.

How do I fight my jealousy?

1. Reflection: Take time to reflect on your own thoughts and feelings. Ask yourself why you are jealous. Is it due to insecurity or comparison with others? When you understand where your jealousy comes from, you can better cope with it.

2. Trust advance: If there is no specific reason for your jealousy, you should show more trust towards your partner. Believe that they are interested in the relationship and will behave accordingly. By trusting each other, you can build a stronger connection in your relationship. Trust is an important component of any relationship and creates a sense of security and stability. There is no guarantee that you will never be disappointed. Loving another person always comes with the risk of emotional injuries. When you place your trust in your partner, you can be confident that you can overcome challenges together and endure difficult times.

3. Communication: Speak openly and honestly with your partner about your jealousy. Share your worries and fears with them so they can understand where your jealousy comes from. Open communication can also help clarify misunderstandings and misjudgments.

4. Time for yourself: Focus on your own interests and hobbies. Prioritizing personal well-being enables individuals to cultivate a strong sense of self-worth and confidence, which is essential for reducing feelings of jealousy and create a stronger foundation for your relationship.

5. Inner Child: Another thing that can help us deal with jealousy is to confront our inner child. Our fears and insecurities in relationships often stem from events or experiences in our past that have hurt us. These hurts can be deeply rooted and affect the inner child that still lives within us. By consciously confronting our inner child and giving it the security and love it needs, we can better manage our jealousy and ultimately lead to a healthier relationship with ourselves and others. Book suggestion: "The Child in You" by Stefanie Stahl.

6. Therapy: If your jealousy has become a serious problem, do not hesitate to seek professional help from a therapist or psychologist. They can help you identify the underlying issues and develop effective strategies to cope with jealousy.

Remember that jealousy is normal and occurs in many relationships. With open communication, trust, self-reflection, and nurturing your own interests and hobbies, you can reduce your jealousy and build a healthy and happy relationship. So, don't let jealousy defeat you but use it as motivation to work on yourself and your relationship. You are in control!

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